Peer pressure is a prominent issue in the lives of many teens. While some situations remain harmless, many become dangerous quickly. The effects of peer pressure can be detrimental.
Consider the story of someone who prefers to remain anonymous, but for the purpose of the article will be called Ally.
“When I was in seventh grade, I was hanging out with my group of friends, and one friend had stolen their older sibling’s vape,” said Ally. “This person was able to force the rest of the group to use it with her.”
In situations like these, many are insulted or made fun of in order to be influenced.
“I tried to refuse, but I did [vape] since everyone was telling me to. I didn’t want to seem ‘weird’ or like a ‘baby,’” said Ally.
Once someone crosses the line, it may be difficult to get back on the right path.
“Now, three years later, I haven’t been able to stop. I’m too embarrassed to seek help, and I don’t want others to go down the same path I did,” said Ally.
While many fall victim to peer pressure, others are able to resist the temptation.
“Even now, I am proud to say I have never smoked recreational drugs. I chose not to do that,” said Marist counselor Tasia Buford-Howell.
As many fail to realize, giving in to peer pressure isn’t being naive; it’s putting trust in the wrong people.
“In the situations I have witnessed, the person being peer pressured was betrayed by a very close friend,” said freshman Mady Tracy.
Many teens struggling with pressure from peers begin to act out, resulting in more significant consequences.
“I started talking back, sneaking out, but it wasn’t normal for me, and my parents weren’t used to it either,” said Ally.
After such an event takes place, many regret the decisions they have made.
“I should have just walked away. I wish I had just said no,” said Ally.
However, there are many ways to steer clear of peer pressure.
“It comes down to helping the teen remember who they are and their values,” said Buford-Howell.
Pushing someone to participate in activities that make them uncomfortable may seem inconsequential to the person delivering the pressure, but the consequences can be devastating.
“I lost myself, and I don’t know if I’ll ever be the person I once was,” said Ally.
Even when it feels as though no one is there, there are many people who are willing to help: parents, friends, teachers, and counselors.
“If you’ve already gone down that path, seek help. It may seem scary or embarrassing, but in the long run, it’s only going to help,” said Tracy. “I believe that even when it feels like there is nothing, there is always a little bit of light in each tunnel.”
